Welcome to my Doris Inc. blog. Let me begin by telling you a little bit about my caregiving journey that eventually led me to write this book.
When my father died suddenly in 2002, I became the primary caregiver for my mother, Doris, a role I held until she died in 2009. I did the best I could for Mom, but I was torn between my conflicting roles. I wanted and needed to spend more time with my mother, but I also wanted to keep my consulting business going. For a year and a half, I tackled her health and loneliness issues using what I called a solo-firefighter approach to caregiving, focusing only on her crisis of the day. My approach failed miserably, and left me feeling exhausted and no longer in control of my life.
When my mother was hospitalized after a bad fall, she became totally dependent on me for her care and well-being. At that point, I realized I urgently needed to find a better approach to caregiving. My brother and I instinctively drew upon our extensive business experience and applied business disciplines to caregiving to solve our problem. We found a way to provide top-notch and loving care for our mother while still having busy lives and careers of our own. We affectionately called our venture Doris Inc.
While caring for my mother, I discovered that our society’s crisis-driven approach to caregiving too often results in neglected elders, burnt-out caregivers, and stalled careers. This disturbed me greatly, and inspired me to share the strategies that worked so well for us. My goal in writing this series of blogs is to empower families to handle the many challenges of the golden years in a prepared, informed and proactive way. In my upcoming blog posts I will:
1) Share practical tips from my book that address the tough issues aging families face.
2) Take you on my journey since writing Doris Inc. as I uncover new insights.
I hope you will subscribe to my blog and provide me with your feedback. Your comments will help me focus on topics that are the most helpful to you.
By Shirley Roberts, Author of Doris Inc.: A Business Approach to Caring for Your Elderly Parents
In 2014, some of my blog posts will also appear on Crossroads360.com